Tirukkural Chapter 91 - Couplets 7,8,9,10

திருக்குறள் -TIRUKKURAL அதிகாரம் 91 - பெண்வழிச் சேறல் CHAPTER 91 - FOLLOWING WOMAN'S ADVICE *** 91/07. பெண்ணேவல் செய்தொழுகும் ஆண்மையின் நாணுடைப் பெண்ணே பெருமை உடைத்து. 91/07. Penneaval seithozhugum aannmaiyin naannudaip Pennea perumai udaiththu. 91/07. An obedient wife is far better than A husband who is obedient to his wife. *** Ajeet: Neither a wife be obedient to her husband Nor a husband need be obedient to his wife. Let them consult each other, as days are changed now. Jayant: As days change, people also change. Now girls are equally educated, And they're not in kitchen confined, But for jobs, in their turn, they're going. If you ask them to be slaves They'll simply refuse, Saying, "Why should we be slaves? What is less in us by our status? " There is a sea of change In all walks of lives, And at this modern stage, There is no room for slaves. *** 91/08. நட்டார் குறைமுடியார் நன்றாற்றார் நன்னுதலாள் பெட்டாங்கு ஒழுகு பவர். 91/08. Nattaar kurraimudiyaar nanrraatrraar; nanudhalaall Pettaangu ozhugu bhavar. 91/08. A husband doing as per his wife's wishes He can't remove the troubles or do any favors to his friends. *** Ajeet: Life with wife is something And life with friends is different thing. A husband must be free to do Good things for both of them. Jayant: If a husband spends Money beyond his means Daily to his group of friends That expense, his wife can object. She can say, children are there, Who must be taken care, Why so much he spends Wasting money on his friends. But if it is a small help She must also join him to help His friend during any crisis That friend may face. *** 91/09. அறவினையும் ஆன்ற பொருளும் பிறவினையும் பெண்ணேவல் செய்வார்கண் இல். 91/09. Arravinaiyum anrra porullum pirravinaiyum Penneval seivaarkann il. 91/09. A husband obeying his wife's commands will not do virtuous deeds or getting things for that purpose, and will lose all benefits accrued for those deeds. *** Ajeet: A husband will not get benefits of doing virtuous deeds If he listens and act according to his wife's wishes. Jayant: Generally, a wife has upperhand In her household duties, Being a weaker sex, she gets Undue sympathy from her husband. It must not be mistaken That his wife is given More liberty to command, In such matters, than her husband. After children are born, She has more concern For her young ones Which is a genuine one. *** 91/10. எண்சேர்ந்த நெஞ்சத்து இடனுடையார்க்கு எஞ்ஞான்றும் பெண்சேர்ந்தாம் பேதைமை இல். 91/10. Ennserndha nenjaththu idanudaiyaarkku egngnaandrum Pennserndhaam pedhaimai il. 91/10. A man who has his own firm mind and self determination why should he do the foolish thing of consulting his wife in each and every case? *** Ajeet: The poet finally is advising male members To take their own decisions when they have Capacity to do so instead consulting his wife In every matter. Jayant: In office matters husband Can take his good decisions, While in all domestic matters, She can decide, instead of her husband. This kind sharing responsibility Will keep them both busy In their own world of duties, Confining them to their own roles. In the modern family set up There is no ‘down' or ‘up' As wife loves well her husband, Who equally loves his wife till the end ***